Hi SA, I can trace things back to at least spring of 2007. Unfortunately I can only see it looking back and was unaware of what was going on until fall 09 with bomb. I believe EA began in earnest sometime in 08 or early 09.
WN, Spent last evening reading at midlife crisis marriage advocate .com Some interesting and depressing stuff there.
Saw IC today. Been working with her since bomb. She is encouraged by what H is saying and doing, but like you all, advising cautious optimism. He did call from CA last night just to chat. Not done that in a long time.