As far as I recall you aren't doing anything to indicate you are pursuing her at all...
You not wanting to move simply because she demands it is hardly a solid argument...
Has she gotten anything else?
Not that I know of...
She's just going through teh roller coaster of an impending divorce and cant' deal... steer clear
Well she THINKS by not ACTIVELY PURSUING the divorce that I am "pining" away and "refusing to face what I don't want to hear".
She then gets FURIOUS when I tell her that I will do things in my own time. She then tells me how I am trying to hold onto her "with every means necessary".
"You can't face the reality so you are hiding from it".
If it's not on HER TERMS, then I am pathetic and clingy.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
Exactly.. its her interpretation.. just let her go...
You are just keeping busy, you aren't sending her flowers or love letters or inviting her to dinner or ANYTHING of the kind...
Next time she says you are clinging just say "For someone that wants to be free of me you have a hard time leaving me alone... If you don't mind I am pretty busy right now and I would like it if you went away please?"
And just walk away
Or
"You can accuse me of whatever you like... All I am doing is NOT what you demand I do... That doesnt' make me clingy, it means I aint' your doormat... Now go away please..."
What on earth are THEY saying to lead you to think they hold YOU to be some monster?
What on earth is she telling them on a factual level?
"He's REFUSING to sell the house"
"He still wants to be married to me"
"He won't let me go"
"I just can't take him anymore!!!"
"I just want this to end!!!"
It is her EMOTIONAL COMMUNICATION to them that says to them that I am "hurting" her.
THEY don't get that she is ONLY HURTING HERSELF. So they feed into it and validate her "feelings" about me. They tell her to "get away" from me, and that I am "desperately clinging on".
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
If nobody knew any better I think most people would quickly say SHE is the one pining and can't let go... Her erratic and hostile behaviour is a dead give away dude...
Why is it during the divorce you are calm and she's a raging psychopath?
Maturity to put it simply... I know you say she's getting support, but it clearly isn't any good or she wouldn't be hostile...
Next time she starts raging just put some headphones on...
Yup, divorce is painful... I had to deal with that too man... my wife spun a disney classic to everyone and trashed me to all of her friends...
I just decided if they were gonig to believe her then I dind't care what they thought and I would just maintain my compusure and my confidence...
I am not saying be smug, just relaxed and confident... Your db busting IS working believe it or not... She is having trouble dealing becauese of your efforts...
You aren't driving her away and THAT's whats bothering her... lol
YOu are working the marriage and it is driving her nuts lol
If nobody knew any better I think most people would quickly say SHE is the one pining and can't let go... Her erratic and hostile behaviour is a dead give away dude...
Why is it during the divorce you are calm and she's a raging psychopath?
Maturity to put it simply... I know you say she's getting support, but it clearly isn't any good or she wouldn't be hostile...
