CD

I haven't posted to you before and I haven't read through your sitch.

Look the only thing I would say is there is a difference between moving on and moving forward.

The latter being a process where the goal is to heal and grow as a man.

It starts with complete detachment as Missher said.

This allows you to pull yourself out of the hurt, pain and self doubt created by this unfortunate circumstance in your M.

I assume(and again I haven't read your whole sitch) that you know all you need to know about your W and her A.

IMO once you have that info, and enough to protect yourself legally and financially it is time to start protecting you emotionally.

Detach.

Now is the time to look in the mirror and see who CD is and who CD wants to be.

It is time to work on you.

Everyone is different in how they come down on going forward.

It really is a personal decision.

Me? I took a vow to love and honor my W.

That means a lot to me. But that is me.

So I know when I said my vow I didn't say I will love and honor you

BUT

If you get scared and lose your way...

I won't.

This is separating yourself from someone elses choice.

She didn't do this to you she did it to herself.

Your W has spoken for now. Let her have what she is telling you she wants.

They are her choices so honor( if your vows are important to you) her by respecting her right to make them. And the consequences that go with them.

Your goal from here on should be take care of YOU.

Move forward CD.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am