Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[newmama]

Citygirl--you honestly don't ask guys out?? I believe it's ok to ask them out but let them take the lead after the first date! (of course if you've been reading my thread you've seen me throwing myself at zoobrew just for a fling! I wouldn't do that if I wanted a boyfriend!)

OK Romeo, here is how you can let girl #4 down gently.

1)don't reply quickly to her texts....let hours or a day go by

2)same with the email

3)get into a conversation with her when you go out about how she is handling being single again...let her know something like...that you are just kind of testing the waters and easing back into dating. You are not ready for anything serious and the idea of regularly seeing someone makes you feel claustrophobic! You can say "yeah, I am just kind of dating here and there to get back into the swing of being single again. I am not ready for any kind of relationship."

4)By the end of the date on Wed, if you know for sure that you don't ever want to go out with her again, then let her know "I am not feeling that "click" with you. I just want to be honest so you don't feel like I am leading you on. Thanks for the movie!" or something like that....and so what if she will be hurt. She will be a lot less hurt than if you made it seem like you want to keep talking to her and going out with her!