New here and could use some advice.

[Ready2Change]

My question is, how...HOW can I let him know that I either want to work on the marriage or divorce (no separating) without him getting mad/defensive. If I let him have his way, he will milk this for all it's worth. Who wouldn't? He gets to have fun and see his kids whenever HE feels like it.

You can set a boundary...

Start by reading the boundary thread:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1859179&page=all

Then type one out here and we will help refine it....

HUGS