Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

So when can I take you out for dinner? <--- better?

Better would be, "when would you like to take me out for dinner?"
Remember, you're a single Dad so you're broke!

Wii, what are you trying to do? sabotage my hot date? I'll rob a bank the night before if I have to.

CG, don't mind wii- I'm made of money...should I bring the Ferrari 430 or are you the Veyron type of girl?

[whatisis]

Wii, yeah I know I'm not ready. I'm not too worried about girls 1,2 and 3 because they're all the meetup group girls. Girl 4 is a neighbor and I'm kinda in a jam because I don't want to say anything that will jeaprodize future relationships with her family and I don't want to lead her on either because I don't feel that way about her. She's sweet and probably looking for validation/company like I am but I don't want to go beyond the friendly movie/dinner outing. But I'm not sure what to tell her exactly that's nice but also sets the boundary.

No problem, take the honest straight forward approach which is always best in these situations. Tell her you're gay.

[ImprovedRomeo]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHA

Wii- I shot all the water out of my nose!!!

This is the most I've laughed for months!

[whatisis]

Or shoot water out your nose for her, that could do it too!

[CityGirl]

Money and cars don't mean anything to me but shooting water sounds like a neat party trick!

T is going through some rough stuff today (send love and prayers her way) but she will be along to talk you into doing fun stuff with us!

I am furious right now... 2nd contact H made with me this week just happened and he sickens me.

Have a good one!

[ImprovedRomeo]

CG, just caught up on T's situation on FB, thanks for the heads up. Sorry about your H still doing this crap ((CG)).

[newmama]

Citygirl--you honestly don't ask guys out?? I believe it's ok to ask them out but let them take the lead after the first date! (of course if you've been reading my thread you've seen me throwing myself at zoobrew just for a fling! I wouldn't do that if I wanted a boyfriend!)

OK Romeo, here is how you can let girl #4 down gently.

1)don't reply quickly to her texts....let hours or a day go by

2)same with the email

3)get into a conversation with her when you go out about how she is handling being single again...let her know something like...that you are just kind of testing the waters and easing back into dating. You are not ready for anything serious and the idea of regularly seeing someone makes you feel claustrophobic! You can say "yeah, I am just kind of dating here and there to get back into the swing of being single again. I am not ready for any kind of relationship."

4)By the end of the date on Wed, if you know for sure that you don't ever want to go out with her again, then let her know "I am not feeling that "click" with you. I just want to be honest so you don't feel like I am leading you on. Thanks for the movie!" or something like that....and so what if she will be hurt. She will be a lot less hurt than if you made it seem like you want to keep talking to her and going out with her!

[ImprovedRomeo]

OK guys, changing subject. I sent stbxw the email draft I had on page 2 about the insurance etc.

Now, Girl 4...I'm thinking of sending her an email like such:

"Hey G4, so about Sun I'm good with us hanging out if you want to do something fun. I just don't to give the wrong idea to the neighbors. I'm definitely not ready for anything serious but it's fun to get out and do stuff. Let me know if you're up for watching a movie or grabbing a quick bite?"

Yes, no, maybe?

[CityGirl]

No, I don't ask guys out! I never have and I doubt I ever will. I think it is okay to do so I just don't/won't! I like your thread and your adventures!

I am not saying AT All it is wrong to ask guys out or put up an online dating profile but it's just not for me.

Honestly, I am really just not into all the talking and BS right now. Like Romeo is experiencing with his #1-4. I don't like to be hounded and I don't want to have to think all that much right now. I went on a few dates with a FANTASTIC guy...he is a surgeon at the hospital my sister works at. He was good looking, very nice, fun, super polite and very easy to talk to but it all seemed like such a chore, lol!

I met a guy last night while walking my dog. He apparently lives in the building down the street and parks in a lot near my building. He stopped, introduced himself, asked about the dog and was nice (?) and all that but.. I dunno. And it proves you don't have to be all gussied up to meet a man as I had on yoga pants and a wife beater and my hair was in a messy bun and I had not a stitch of makeup on.

I am rambling (shocker, no?).

[newmama]

Romeo, I like your email except the line about "don't want to give the wrong idea to the neighbors" but the rest sounds terrific! LIKE A FRIENDly EMAIL!!!!

Citygirl, guess you don't have to ask them out if they approach you all the time, lucky woman!