what's your goal? work backwards from there, what are the steps, contingencies
i think first .. i need to decide which option is best for me/us right now. is it really 2a?
his camp sent us financial statements without proof/backup documentation to show the actual numbers. i have all my proof for them. so we are good on our side. i still need to see his proof to make sure the numbers are not picked out of the air.
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what prep work on yourself needs to be accomplished so you can work the plan effectively?
i have spoken to him in a while. i saw him for the first time in three weeks yesterday and he gave me an obligatory wave from his car as he drove by me. but i haven't had much practice talking to him.
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check your expectations at the door, have your boundaries, know the ROE, and "lovingly detach."
if we meet at a starbucks or something. just go over some stuff, and if it gets heated or disrespectful, then i thank him for his time, get up, and walk out.
i don't know if he's still acting on his emotions. does it matter? it might. because if he is, then i have to resort to 2b. there is no point in talking to someone who is acting/thinking with emotions. i've really gotten past that stage and i'm looking at this from a business standpoint. do you want to continue to incur legal fees? i don't. so can we work this out like adults?
the numbers speak for themselves. you cannot argue the math. it shows that i was being very fair when i asked for a 50/50 split. i could be vindictive and nit pick at everything. but i care more about the people around me than the numbers on the financial statements. i don't want to see them hurt anymore. people are more important than material things. they are more important than your retirement plan, your stock options, your frequent flyer points, and your priceless baseball collection. they are more important than spousal support.
you said to me at the start of all this that i only wanted to win. walking away with 50% doesn't make me the winner because look at the price that was paid to get this 50%? look at all the people who got hurt in the process. it wasn't just about you and me. if i'm not the winner, i guess that means you won. congratulations.
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ps. stop thinking like this, it gives you an excuse
compassion is used to battle those thoughts. right, coach?
my rant above .. is spoken in a calm tone. i don't want to accuse anybody of anything. i just want to speak from my point of view.
can you sense any digging or mind reading in the above? it needs fine tuning.
