Quote: don't hold it over his head...I don't use it against him...I don't say..hey, you did this thing so therefore I can get even madder at all the little things you now do or don't do as a result of it.
Hmmmm....now I know you don't verbalize this to H so bluntly, is there not a bit of this seeping underneath? I'm thinking of Ellie's posts about your reaction to H staying out so late and missing his time with S.
Quote: my issue with forgiveness is not knowing clearly what I am forgiving him for...was there a physical thang going on??? haven't forgiven him for that one cause he hasn't admitted to it, infact denies it...so that bit is still looming...sure people tell me to forgive anyway..it doesn't matter...ah but it does...I don't want to forgive someone for something they didn't do. That's like saying to an honest person...it's ok I forgive you for lying
This makes a lot of sense. But how will you ever know for sure LL? Could you flat out ask HER?
What if she said there was a PA?
What if she says there wasn't?
I have a book called "Never be lied to again" (by David J. Lieberman) which gives some pretty well studied tips on not only how to tell when people are lying to you, but also how to trip them up and lead them into fessing up to stuff you in fact didn't know about.
Yeah, I was in one of THOSE moods when I bought it.
