The answer is you handle what truly needs to be dealt with not what she dictates.
"Wife, I know I have hurt you and I see it now. I am working on things for myself to be a better man."
I think you need to let her into your thoughts very prudently.
"We discussed ___________ and it helped me realise how I was not taking care of you the way you needed."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
