What days are your anger management classes? U have decided to not do the AA anymore right? I need to get an avilability so I know what hours I can work so that they do not interfere with your meetings. They are important and I don't want you to miss them. - I replied that I am doing an individual meeting tues nights and a program at church thurs nights. Did not mention AA as I do not feel its for me but I am not going to engage in that can of worms with her. Ended my reply with a thanks.
So she is emailing me like crazy, don't think its for her scheduling but fishing. She asked if the tues night deal was my anger class? Told her just this "its my counseling.
Her reply;
So u are not doing the AA or anger management anymore? R u talking about the issue with lieing too?
I do not know how much I want to respond: I really want to say I am doing what I feel is right for me and to piss off, if she is going for D I don't want to put too much in email that she can save and used against me in court, ie: anger, drinking lying. Any thoughts?
"Wife, you work as many nights as you want. I will handle my own affairs."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I have not really replied to anything yet, she sent me another email, asking what issues I am dealing with in my counseling? is she fishing, is she trying to get me to email her evidence she can possibly use against me?
I am not getting the vibe she is being compassionate it feels more like she is asking in a business sense?
The answer is you handle what truly needs to be dealt with not what she dictates.
"Wife, I know I have hurt you and I see it now. I am working on things for myself to be a better man."
I think you need to let her into your thoughts very prudently.
"We discussed ___________ and it helped me realise how I was not taking care of you the way you needed."
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Ok I am going to the gym, she wont stop emailing me, asking about Dr. appt> asking about my counselor, yada yada, I want to say dont you have work to do? I posted a pic of my kids sleeping last night on FB, from last night, W posted a comment "they tried to wait up for you..... it made me feel like sh!t!
I feel she is checking up on me, maybe showing interest in my progress, hopefully not trying to be vindictive with tactics.
I did not respond with anything that has to do with her, or how I have handled issues with her, just that I like my counselor, and that is it, I want her to see the changes I dont want her to think I am doing this all for her.
I dont know, I feel like I am doing things right now, but the testing is getting me wired, need to go throw weights around and grunt!!!!
