Dear RF,
How are you? I think you maybe changed your screen name? I like RF better!

It sounds like you are doing GREAT! Good job on the GAL, standing your ground to spend some time apart. All good moves.

Some very smart people on this board posted this link on detachment: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

I found it helpful, & I think it is helpful for most of us in this position of feeling hostage to another person's actions or words. In your case, healthy detachment means your F does not have such power over you to upset you. It goes hand in hand with taking care of yourself, focusing on yourself. This is so important in surviving the "emotional rollercoaster" you describe. Believe me, we have all been there (or still are!)

You sound like a very kind, sensitive person, and you deserve to be treated well. You are handling your sitch very well, keep it up.

BTW, it's OK to vent on your thread! In fact much better to do it here than in RL, or taking it out on family, friends, even F! It's a safe space, so use it well.

Congrats on your F agreeing to go to counseling. That is a very good sign. Just keep focusing on yourself, and taking care of yourself. ((((hugs))))

Last edited by LookingFrAnswers; 07/28/10 08:22 PM.