Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

tell her you want to file separately. what reason do you have not to separate your finances?

If we file separately we both owe money. If we file jointly we both get a return.

cause she wants to get divorced from you. hint. hint.

Yes, her silence for the past 9 months is a constant reminder.

this was on msn today

A recent study published in the Journal of Family Psychology suggests that for women, dating a less attractive man may result in a happier, more emotionally satisfying relationship.


Researchers from UCLA and the University of Tennessee gathered 82 couples in their mid-twenties who had married in the past year and had been together for almost three years prior, then filmed the couples discussing a personal problem. All the while, a panel of people evaluated who was the better looking individual in each pair. After analyzing the tapes, researchers discovered that in couples where the man was more attractive than the woman, he said often things such as, “This is your problem, you deal with it” whereas the unattractive hubbies were more apt to say things like, “I'm here for you — what do you want me to do? How can I help you?'"

I think you are way off base on the not dating thing and naive about the wife, whom you havent talked to in nine months, not going out on dates.

I read that article too. I would say W and I are your average looking people. So not sure where that puts us?

I know that Coach would probably say to lead, do what is right and ask her how I can help. This is what I will do. Ok, calmed down a bit now.

She's not dating. My intel confirms this. Maybe I can ask her if she's ok with me dating? See what she says? Just kidding. I like Coach's advice to go out with friends and create some mystery with W. This I can do.

Maybe I'm wrong for not dating. I know you, Gucci and Rob have suggested I consider dating. It just goes against everything I believe to be right for me. On the other hand I do want to save my marriage more than anything. What about the woman that one would date? It seems that they are being used as a ploy to get the W back. What happens to them if it works and W comes backs? How is that fair to them? Just questions I ask myself. To be honest, with where my W seems to be right now I'm not sure it would work anyway.

Thanks Steve for responding so fast. I wanted to ask for the advice before I did my next step with W today. Thanks for clearing my mind. I know what to do now.