In her latest email today she said she could ask her attorney (divorce) a question that we are trying to get answered about possible foreclosure. I am waiting for an attorney to call me back today that specializes in foreclosure law. W knows this. Why would she rub it in and mention she could ask her divorce attorney?
Yeah, I know, she's trying to be helpful but it was something I didn't need to hear.
You characterize it her ‘rubbing it in’, even though you also acknowledge that she was trying to be helpful. You are in the divorce process and you need to deal with that however unpleasant it may be.
Her attorney isn't the right person to talk to anyway. The attorney I'm waiting to talk to is the right person who specializes in this area. Been this way the entire M. I think about things and deal with the right people and she gets her own idea and runs with it even if it makes no sense.
She also offered to call and follow-up with my foreclosure attorney if I wanted her to. She thanked me and said she appreciated all of the work I've done on this issue today. Just me trying to lead again and do everything...again. I was going to email her back and tell her that I would take her up on her offer to make some phone calls to help find answers to some of our questions. I think she should. I also want to tell her that she should contact the previous real estate agent to inform her that we are not going to relist with her. I feel like why should I do everything now that I bascially told her yesterday that I'm ok if this doesn't work between us.
Am I way off base with this thinking? I'm not trying to be controlling here, I'm really not. I just think that we need to have the right people answering our questions and that she should be helping.
So she offered to talk with her attorney and your attorney yet you feel resentful because it seems like you do everything. At the same time, you think she does things wrong, but you resent her for not doing more. So basically, you want her to do more, but do it your way.
I dunno . . . . sound controlling to you?
Resentment is poison to you and your relationships.
