So basically she wants to have the emotional/financial security of a marriage while dating (casually of course), raising children part time, not having to go through the pain of an actual legal divorce and gets to talk to her affair partner with NO consequences? Not a bad gig if you can get it!
My H and I will always have a connection of some sort and I am sure we could have TONS of fun together but it doesn't mean he could be a good husband (his live in mistress might not like it, lol!).
Your W is some sort of genius if she can get you to agree to this set up!
Just a quick note. I believe it's possible for your W to keep OM as a friend on FB without it showing up on your screen, so you wouldn't know if she actually de-friended him.
Awesome. Thanks folks. That's why I post all this stuff here. Sometimes I am so close in I can't see it clearly.
Funny side note. I am 43 years old, and I just gave in yesterday and admitted I need reading glasses. I really can't see close in! LOL!
Yeah, I guess her withdrawal clock is reset to 00:00:00. I don't know what it means to her. Part of the reason I didn't ask for a "no contact" message before was because that seemed like contact in itself. There has to be one last contact to declare intent of no contact, doesn't there?
She's totally cake eating, and she is trying to manipulate this situation into exactly what she wants. I'm thinking back to Coach's philosophy, "do what's right, not what's easy, or what will keep the peace". What's right is to D her if this is what she wants.
I guess that's what's left for me to do. I should have done it last year.
She's totally cake eating, and she is trying to manipulate this situation into exactly what she wants. I'm thinking back to Coach's philosophy, "do what's right, not what's easy, or what will keep the peace".
Excellent advice. It really is perfect.
Sometimes what we want isn't the best thing, hard as it may seem.
She's totally cake eating, and she is trying to manipulate this situation into exactly what she wants. I'm thinking back to Coach's philosophy, "do what's right, not what's easy, or what will keep the peace".
Excellent advice. It really is perfect.
Sometimes what we want isn't the best thing, hard as it may seem.
And this, this is a lesson that is the hardest to take to heart.
I agree with TH and Puppy that it is not realistic to date other people and each other too if you are still married. If you want to do that, get divorced and then date each other and other people. Don't let her have the cake. You say yourself it will cause her great pain to sever the relationship. That is YOUR leverage. Push it.
agree with TH and Puppy that it is not realistic to date other people and each other too
Unless you like lots of drama, women smashing your windows out of your car when they find out you are married or flakes you attract because you are married, jealousy, restraining orders, winding up on COPS or worse... Dateline.
You want to date other people? Fine, then let's get this divorce done, Baby. Gonna have me some fun. Smell ya later.
"Free at last! Free at last! Thank God Almighty, we are free at last!" - MLK Jr.
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M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
