Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[dday101798]

Thank you MrBond, and especially Steve. I've been biting my tongue on a "alienbusters" comment all afternoon.

If you feel you are at a moment where your WAS is longing for help, what in the world does it hurt to extend yourself to them? They ARE afterall YOUR SPOUSE, not some pod person, alien, or fog creature.

I did. And she didn't let go for 5 minutes. The following week, we had an opportunity to turn everything around pre-divorce. But, she contiunued to sleep in the bed she made. And in the spirit of what was just said, don't do what doesn't work, I never extended myself again. And it took 9 MONTHS and a DIVORCE. NOT 9 HOURS overnight and a cold shower for her to come back. It took 9 months for her realize I am what she wanted for extending myself, ONCE, and RESPECTING MYSELF long and hard enough to not do it AGAIN.

Hard knocks boys. It don't happen overnight. I "haven't advised you what to do yet"? Oh, yes I have. Settle down, relax, do the best you can for you, and your kids if you so have, let the WAS sort themselves out while YOU SORT YOURSELF OUT.