he says i am not allowing him visitation.

since nov09 he has seen d3 about 10 times and 5month old son even less then that.

what i asked him to do was to show me he could take care of both of them at the same time wihtout his mommie by his side.

i also asked him to start slowly with visitation, just as our courts recommend when one parent has been absent or in and out of their lives.

other history h left me and daughter before for 9 months and never saw her then either.

i go back and forth of being so protective of my kids and doing the other.

i think this maybe the most advice i need on the child visitation.

Me 39 H 30
d 18 previous marriage
d 2.5 with H
s 4.5months with H
Seperation Nov09
july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline