YEP. I agree. There is NO excuse for it. I know, I was a WAW 12 yrs ago and it was the biggest mistake of my life. Difference is I owned up to it and worked my butt off to make it up to my H. I don't think he ever forgave me and I think he justified his A because of it. I wonder if they have that long of an affair if they really ever get over the OW. He SAYS she means nothing to him, and that may be true, but it's the way she makes him FEEL that worries me. YOU ARE SO RIGHT that if they put half that energy into the M. they would get so much more out of it! I think I'll tell my H that! Rachael
