Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

W and I have been emailing each other all day about the bank issue with the house. We need to make some decisions regarding the bank with the looming foreclosure. Question I wanted to throw out and ask for opinions. We have to file our taxes and she had indiated last week she would file jointly if we signed an agreement on how the tax return would be handled. My question is should I mentiion this today that I think we should also sign that agreement so we can file or is this too much to put on her today? I'm fine with telling her. I figure since I'm signing one agreement why not sign another at this point.

Sometimes she really doesn't think before she speaks. In her latest email today she said she could ask her attorney (divorce) a question that we are trying to get answered about possible foreclosure. I am waiting for an attorney to call me back today that specializes in foreclosure law. W knows this. Why would she rub it in and mention she could ask her divorce attorney?

Yeah, I know, she's trying to be helpful but it was something I didn't need to hear. Almost like she's saying, oh, since we are getting along now then I'll just call up my attorney and ask this question. Um , no, I don't want to have anything to do with your attorney and I could care less what your attorney has to say about our house questions. Her attorney isn't the right person to talk to anyway. The attorney I'm waiting to talk to is the right person who specializes in this area. Been this way the entire M. I think about things and deal with the right people and she gets her own idea and runs with it even if it makes no sense. Ugh, just venting now.

She also offered to call and follow-up with my foreclosure attorney if I wanted her to. She thanked me and said she appreciated all of the work I've done on this issue today. Just me trying to lead again and do everything...again. I was going to email her back and tell her that I would take her up on her offer to make some phone calls to help find answers to some of our questions. I think she should. I also want to tell her that she should contact the previous real estate agent to inform her that we are not going to relist with her. I feel like why should I do everything now that I bascially told her yesterday that I'm ok if this doesn't work between us.

Am I way off base with this thinking? I'm not trying to be controlling here, I'm really not. I just think that we need to have the right people answering our questions and that she should be helping.