Wife filed for divorce...Is there still hope?

[DanF]

So do either of you have an attorney for the D or are you just going to mediation? What is the story there. Sorry if I missed it in an earlier post.

Remember, You have to protect yourself and your kids. That is very important. Don't be taken advantage of. Do you own a house? What is the situation with that? Do you have equity that you are splitting. Do not take this lightly or trust that she will be fair.

[pinhead]

PH,

The way we were talking yesterday was especially hard because it had been so long to talk, and today it was back to the same thing. I don't think I could go back together with her even if she wanted to.

Thanks for the support. I do appreciate it very much.

Yeah, you're just like me. You build up expectations, and then are disappointed. We're both giving them power over us.

[LSG]

DanF,

We both do not have attornies yet. We are doing mediation, but we also have a hearing too. I am not make any decisions at mediation. I will go to the hearing for dealing with the D because I think it is the only way to protect mine and the kids best interests.

We do not own a house, so child custody will be the biggest issue for us, and it is a really big one.

I do not trust her at all.

I need an attorney, so I am hoping the one I talked to will help me.

Thanks for responding to my thread.

[LSG]

You are right! I wish you weren't.

[dday101798]

Yeah, you're just like me. You build up expectations, and then are disappointed. We're both giving them power over us.

There is a very thin line between hope and expectations.

[idontunderstand]

Hey, LSG.

I take little breaks from here but just can't stay away for too long. I still find that it helps to try to help others even when I don't have any questions with my own sitch. Know what I mean?

I, too hope that the L will help you out. You really NEED legal representation at a time like this. You can't go it alone.

I do continue to follow along and am proud of the way you are dealing with everything. Your kids must know what a great dad you are. I know they are the most important thing in the world to you. Continue to do what's best for you and for them. If you do that, everything else will fall into place.

Continued prayers.


BTW, I know exactly what you mean when you see a glimpse of your "old" W. The same feeling comes over me. I would love to just take her in my arms and tell her this is all in the past and we can move on. Of course, it never lasts more than an hour or an evening at the most. Usually the alien is back within minutes. Still, seeing what used to be is hard. It's easier for us when they are in full-time bitch mode. At least we both know not to expect it to last. Just a sad reminder of what could be if she would let it.

Take care.

[dday101798]

I would love to just take her in my arms and tell her this is all in the past and we can move on.

And how do you know this isn't what she wants?

[TimeHeals]

And how do you know this isn't what she wants?

If he tries, and she says, "I don't even like you" will he know?

[dday101798]

And how do you know this isn't what she wants?

If he tries, and she says, "I don't even like you" will he know?

If a horse is kicked in the ass, does it jump?

[DanF]

I would love to just take her in my arms and tell her this is all in the past and we can move on.

And how do you know this isn't what she wants?

You tell us, how DO we know that isn't what she wants? We want to do it, but we have been advised not to initiate anything and to wait for them. Will we miss our opportunity?