Talk to your daughter and find out what happened at the bookstore if anything...
She SHOULD be putting you in the loop... If you have to ASK her then DO IT...
NO secrets in the household remember? Teach her good family values - secrets are cancer to a marriage... spill woman
OK, will do. I had school all morning and now she is out for awhile. I'm sure she won't mind telling me. I just don't want to make the mistake of undermining her relationship with her dad. Obviously, no matter what, it will be important for the kids to maintain a good relationship with H. However, I DID explain to her that love includes maintaining proper accountability. She has a good grasp on that because I have demonstrated that well in my parenting, I believe. We have a high degree of warmth in our family yet also a high degree of rules and expectations. She and the boys have expressed their thankfulness for the boundaries set and complain about their peers that do not have these boundaries. I gave her that comparison the other day during our discussion: loving dad also means not accepting his CB, esp. if he tries to rationalize it to you. You can still say, "Dad I love you..." while also saying, "but this is wrong...and it DOES hurt us kids."
These are rather adult concepts for teens to have to put in practice but I hope they learn something valuable from it - something that will help their loves too.
