So, you update, the exposure to aunt and uncle was a bit of a bust.
He said "we will never take sides. You are free to come here as often as you like"
I'm gonna confirm with them today that they understood what I said and what it means.
By not choosing, they have chosen to support the affair and the destruction of our marriage. No choice is still a choice.
I guess all I have left is her mom.
His W intercepted some texts bw OM and his mom. I'll try to post it. It's just her side of the convo. There's something I can use in there but I need expert advice as to how. I'd like to talk to her but I have to be cautious about "harassment" since they apparently got a "he's irrational" opinion last time.
The other piece is I am getting very much settled in my view that the next step is completely letting go. The exposures are not accomplishing much from where I sit.
So I'll just get my Sep Agreement drawn up; get my papers organized and build one from the DIY Kit. Pay a lawyer to review it.
Then bring it to the mediator w/ W and "stick to my guns". If the mediator wants to "negotiate it away", I'll tell him "My W has chosen to have an affair rather than work on our marriage and be responsible to her family. This is my opening minimum position. If she would like to pursue a court battle, I'll adjust the terms accordingly- including custody"
If I am fighting for my family alone and her family chooses to put their heads in the sand, then I should let them ALL go and they can deal with the cleanup, too.
But D and I will move on as best we can. Ostriches are now my least favorite animal.
