Quote: LL, I'm curious. Why do you think he tries to avoid you? Has he always been like this? Rachael
I suppose he avoids everyone wich is why it is such a surprize to me that he had a girlfriend.
his friends that he used to hang out with when we met all still get together and one couple actually lives 6 miles from us..he never calls them if we see them it's cause I call...he only calls buddie..one of his friends/employees is buying a house nearby..I asked if he would be inviting him to come over and watch football with him sometimes..his answer...no! I then asked him who his friends are and he had no answer...said he has aquantances..I asked if I were going to have a surprize party for him how would I know who to invite? his answer?? vauge...the guys he goes to the game with...funny not that long ago he refered to these guys as a bunch of animals...and the only time that I know of that he spends with them is at the games...I know that most of them are actual friends with eachother outside of football.
here's the point..last year before h moved out but after disclosure of ow..we had been going out once a week with the couple that live nearby....we were sitting there and the wife commented that he didn't seem to be enjoying himself...he had nothing to say and was just a lump on the chair at the bar...along walked on of the football guys (they were in another room with wives etc. celebrating a b-day) h lit up..came alive...the answer is clearly...he is not happy with me...is happy with other people but doesn't want to include me in that crowd? why? cause he wants to play mr. & mrs. jones with me? the responsible couple that stay at home with the kids? and then go off and party till he pukes with other people? point is now he knows all the guys and their wives...has for years..but he's never brought me around them so now can't cause I'm the wife that doesn't fit in. if he even wanted to wich when I've asked he says he doesn't want to hang with them.
I don't know who my h is other than the man that works to pay the bills and that he likes football.
