Quote: Okay, then, if you are really doing it for the kids, shouldn't you be doing the best possible job you can? Not being all full of resentment and martydom over a football outing? After all - admit it - if other things in the R were right, the football game wouldn't be such a big deal. exactly! but the fact remains that things are NOT right in the r And, the male-bonding-over-sports thing - your H is not exactly unique in that. I don't have a problem with h watching football...I don't have a problem with h being one of those freaky fans that people stare at in bars cause they watch the game as if their very life depended on each play..I think it's pretty cool he can have such passion for something outside himself the problem is that he doesn't allow me to share it unless it's convenient for him to do so
What would happen if you quit reacting/nagging/fault-finding, and built a happy, joyfilled active life for yourself - you might be surprised, H just might want to join you there! nope! then h would just accuse me of hanging with the wrong people or get mad at me when I ask him to spend time with me since he can find the time and energy for his own stuff..then I would be living a life completely without h...I have gone that route many times over in the 14 years I've spent with him...then I say? what's the point? go out and enjoy life? live and be happy, laugh and enjoy what life has to offer only to return to a blob who doesn't want to share it with me?
