Blaming your WAS for how they feel doesn't work. Seek to understand how they feel and then the solutions appear. Compassion is what you need to see them.
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I am personally at a point--just got here--where it is clear to me that I am just happy, and if STBXW is not happy, then she will find her own happiness with or without me, and the details of whether that is with or without me or whatever is irrelevant. Her unhappiness or happiness is her business, and just like I wouldn't want anybody to be unhappy, I don't wish her ill or anything. What will be, will be.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
