Hey Puppy Great wealth of information here!! In VA it's also a 50/50 state Virginia has adopted the "equitable distribution" model of dividing marital assets. I know in my case for spousal support I have been told since we have been married for almost 6yrs 2.5/3 yrs is my sufficient case for spousal support. (not that I want to take it, but I need it till I finish my degree and get on my feet).
In my case my W committed adultery and VA if you are intimate again: The court feels I have forgiven her:
Generally, if you knew your spouse committed adultery but continued to live and cohabit with your spouse, then adultery cannot be used as a ground. Once you resume marital relations, after you learned of the adulterous act, the courts feel that you have forgiven, or "condoned," the act. But, if your spouse starts having affairs again, you can then sue on grounds of adultery. Or, if your spouse has had several affairs and you knew of and condoned only one, you may file on adultery regarding the newly discovered affairs.
In Va if you have kids you have to be separated for 1yr, but in my case it’s six months as S is not biologically mine. You will also need a separation agreement which will cover a wealth of information, but don’t sign until you Lawyer has looked at it. Also if you’re separated and are intimate your separation date has to start all over again from that date
My W and I don’t have too much, but the house; W has a Lawyer I have one if needed, but it’s expensive. At first we were going to do mediation or a lawyer who specializes in collaborative law. However as of our last argument I don’t know where we stand.
So make sure you protect yourself as we disagree on things on our separation agreement. You can always set up free consultations to get great advice. I meeting with someone who specializes in collaborative law next week.
