Jstar, I can identify with part of your situation and how difficult it makes married life. I lost my mother suddenly after my H and I had been married a little more than a year. It really did a number on our relationship, and it built over several years.

I have to run out and do a few errands (at the bidding of my father, of course), but I'll come back and write more.

Hang in there. Thinking of you.