Omg, Romeo. Your ex sounds like my husband. So much--it's crazy. I always complimented him and told him when he looked nice, etc and he would barely ever tell me the same things. If I went to hold his hand, he'd barely hold mine for 3 seconds and then let it go, like he didn't want to hold me. Or he'd get home from work and I'd go to kiss him on the cheek and he'd say "I'm busy." BUSY FOR WHAT? Wtf?
Your ex sounds like she may have had some intimacy probs. It's sad being with someone who rejects you all the time.
I did read the 5 love languages on advice of our MC. Apparently mine is "Words of affirmation" and H's is "Acts of service."
I know it's said that men can more easily separate sex from their emotions but I know, as a woman, for me, I need the emotional connection for sex. If it's not there, it could be a nice roll in the hay with a stranger or out-of-this-world, mind-blowing "connected" sex. Would take the later any day.
Originally Posted By: Gardener
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Originally Posted By: newmama
Just had a random thought--if men establish emotional intimacy AFTER the physical bond,...
I believe it's more a matter of emotional bonding being felt, experienced, expressed by way of the physical act, not simply something that just happens "AFTER" like cause and effect.
Originally Posted By: newmama
...then could that be why we hear of men who do the deed and leave right after...like they don't want to get close? "Sex and Love--Gotta keep 'em separated!"
