I am happy that she is agreeing to mediation. I would guess that her lawyer convinced her that she will not get a better deal going to court than you are offering and to go to mediation.
I hope it can be worked out & that you both can put this behind you & move along in rebuilding your lives.
Sitting in a mediators office will also give you a chance to show her the new you and an impartial party will not allow 'abuse' by either of you towards the other in any form, including disrespect.
My thoughts & prayers are with you. Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
Taking the road less traveled because those encountered on the way may be just as unique.