ok kml, get ready to have your 2x4 thrown right back at ya!
Quote: okay LL, duck because here come the 2 x 4's.
You need to figure out just WHY this makes you so angry. In a different world, if you were okay with this, S would be okay with it - "hey, S, daddy couldn't make it back in time, but we know he was out having a good time with his friends, and when he gets home he'll take you out and tell you all about the game. Maybe when you're older you can go with him? Won't that be fun?" point is h doesn't have time for son and it will be a long time comming before h takes him to a game and then it will only be when it's conveineint for him...I asked son if he likes watching football with daddy...son said..no...I like when he watches my channel with me...but that rarely happens My kids were always okay with my H travelling for work because I was okay with it and didn't make a big deal out of it. I honestly am happier when h is not here it is his constant lack of dependability that irritates me...if you don't know what time you'll be home then don't tell me you'll be home at x time only to either not show or show an hour later..that's not fair to me or the kids if I know he's not going to be here I can put son to bed with out a fuss cause there's no point in waiting for daddy.
So - if it's not really about S - is it because you resent him having fun when you aren't? Sorry, but that's YOUR issue - he's not stopping you from going out and having fun with your own friends - YOU ARE. no actually geography is (Took me a long time to figure this out myself ).
If it's because you resent him spending time with buddies when he doesn't give you enough time - well, have you shown any interest in going to the games with him? I'd go to every game if he'd let me but he doesn't! Learning the lingo, buying some tickets for the two of you, etc.? he has season tickets and I have to beg to get to one game, in past years I've not gone at all...I got interested and wathced all the games...and then he retreated..went elswhere to watch didn't bring me to any games..why? cause I don't have a penis... It's important to make an effort to share your spouse's enthusiasms with them, even if it wouldn't be your first choice. it's never my first choice...h is the one you should be talking to here not me..he shows little to no interest in my interests... Right now, all your anger and resentment are achieving is making him rebel against "mom" who is trying to keep him from having any enjoyment in life! Don't go there. Drop that rope. I'm not holding any rope..I dropped it a long time ago...honestly I'd be happy if he left again...let him go off into the sunset with little miss cancer..see if she's happy with a self centered man.
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