I'm not going to dress to impress. I'm going to dress like I normally do. Why? Because if I put on a show, then 6 months later start becoming 'myself' she's going to sit there and say, "You used to dress much better." So she fell for the show and not the real me.
If a guy didn't make an effort to look his best for a date, I would think, 'if he doesn't even make an effort now, he would get even lazier later in relationship.'
I certainly wouldn't expect that he would do that all the time, (I wouldn't do that either), but would hope that even in a long term relationship, when we go out together, he wants to look good for me.
I don't think it's inauthentic to put your best self forward in the beginning stages of a relationship. Putting your best self out there doesn't mean you have to pretend to be someone you aren't. You can still be authentic without being an open book to someone you don't know that well yet.
Originally Posted By: steady
So if I was on a date with you, and I said, I dress the way I dress and I don't dress to impress. Now you feel - 'I think a person should dress to impress', but you don't say that because you like me and you're afraid of what would happen if you actually said that and disagreed with me.
There are reasons other than fear that someone might not tell you what they think. I'd be thinking that no, you obviously don't dress to impress, and wondering why you feel the need to tell me that you don't dress to impress. To impress me with how secure you are in being you? I would think that if you really were, you wouldn't feel the need to announce your renunciation of social norms.
