Thing have been getting a lot better for us. W has started to initiate contact ex: grabbing my hand and holding it, giving me a hug and kiss as she leaves for work or returns home from work. W seems to be slowly opening up to me and all around she appears to be happier. Dare I say even more happy than she had been in several years ( and we just begun to reconcile).
I find validating and letting W be herself helps a lot (causes less conflict). Any near arguments we had are ended quickly with validation or simply realizing that it is not worth picking a fight and nothing good could come out of it.
W explained to me that she wants to raise a "big happy healthy family" with me. W said that her dream was always for us to have children while we were young and I get a sense that she may feel as if we lost out on time due to our sitch.
W is slowly coming around and opening up more and more with each new day. At times I found it beneficial to just not beat around the bush and express things to W and as a result we were better off after....W is very hesitant to full open up in fear that I will hurt her again (something she has said often).
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
