Sweetie, who cares if he thinks you are a good woman and didnt deserve to be treated like that?

The question is, do you?

That's where you need to be.

You are giving him way too much power, way too much head space.

Come on, R. Do you really think you deserved to be abused? Really and truly?

When I first went to my C, she said, B, you have become really small. That pissed me off. It made me sad to think of what I had become.

And slowly, over time, I grew. But it took work, it took time. And mostly it took me believing that I can become the person I was meant to be.

So, stop giving him so much power. Take it back. Show your sons how a woman should be treated. Be their beacon. Find yourself, R. Find YOURSELF!