sa, that bites about the rained out show. That's a lot of time and effort for naught! the only good thing is more experience for the baby. Hope you're getting dried out by now. I just had a load of screenings brought in and rebuilding the horse runs. Just in time for them to fill up for a clinic here.
Weighing in on exposing - I did expose when I blundered into the knowledge of H's ow. I believe had I not done that their plans of her leaving her H and getting her place and my H leaving me and getting his place and then as time passed they would just - walla! find each other and live happily ever after. By exposing to the few people I did ruined the clever plan.
I also believe it prolonged any return of H in a timely manner. He hated me, his anger was extreme, he totally shut me out of his life yet we lived in the same house. We could go for almost a week living in a small house and never see each other or speak to each other.
Someone earlier said exposing is not the same as ultimatums or boundaries and I agree 100%. I was never able to enforce a boundary or issue an ultimatum, except one. I told H if he moved out don't ever come back. He pushed that to the extreme, had his own place, most of his stuff was gone from here. Yet he he slept here on the cuoch every night.
H's MLC was something only he could get thru, and the more I pushed him the longer became his journey.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
