Like I said before, keep up the good work, you take direction/advice very well and seem to be pretty intuitive about this stuff, always remember do what works, stop doing what doesn't work.
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Yes you definitely let her chase. It's the only way it works. When she chases and pursues you, those are signs that her feelings are aligned to wanting you. She wants to pursue the man she's attracted to.
You were discussing a movie that you wanted to bring your son to with her, she suggests another movie and then turns it into a family outing, so that you guys could all go together.
In her frame of mind a few weeks ago, I'm pretty sure something like this would have been nearly impossible for you to ask her to join you and your son, now she's offering to come and picking the movie too.
Yes this is all baby steps.
But here's the thing about this stuff, a lot of times, slow is fast and fast is slow. If you were to nag her, pressure her, beg/plead with her and give her 1001 reasons to stay married, you would be pushing her away. So you take it slow, learn how to stop arguments, learn how to agree, get on the good side of her feelings, learn to stop defending yourself and your ego because it's not worth it just to win an argument and what happens, she's sprinkles in some adult conversation with you every now & then, gives you a break from arguing everyday, gives you a backrub and vice versa one night, now comes up with the plan for all of you to see a movie together as a family.
I would say your progress is very good so far. Keep up the great attitude, remain confident, happy, continue being awesome for yourself and as a father, don't let them ever get you down.
Now I will give you this reminder, this happens often enough so it's worth mentioning, you will get lulled into being comfortable and relaxed with no fighting and then from out of nowhere, you will get attacked on an issue or several issues, some of which could be several weeks/months old.
Women testing men.
So now you're warned, you know it could happen anytime. She will test you to see if you get lazy in your ways when things are good, it's easy to be peaceful, happy and civil during good times, let's see if you can continue this great progress when she throws you a few curveballs.
Attitude is everything, keep maintaining this great attitude.
