omg, she put herself back to sleep! it was on accident, on my part! i am sitting kinda far away from the bedroom now, so i couldn't hear some of her fussing. then i heard, typed my last sentence to you, tiptoed into the bedroom, and she was back asleep!
yay!!
anyway, i wanted to say thanks for everybody's input above, bluestar, BD, and NM. i would have put that in my other post if i would have finished it fully.
please keep the baby advice coming. i want to balance secure attachment with good routines that will help her and me when i'm back and work. tricky to do! and i know every baby is different, so no one really knows for sure.