Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

So maybe she didn't let herself feel the emotional intimacy in order to be physical....right? And I could be waaaaay off,so I will butt out now!

That's probably true...I don't think you're way off. Or she just lost that feeling for me and nothing else mattered. They say love is a choice- you choose to love someone.

I believe it's more a matter of emotional bonding being felt, experienced, expressed by way of the physical act, not simply something that just happens "AFTER" like cause and effect.

Gardener hit it on the head! And I'm not talking about just sex. Like one of the things I always felt jealous of other guys was when I saw their girlfriends/wives holding them while walking together. Or rubbing their shoulders like if we were driving far. I even mentioned to her and sometimes I'd take her hand and put it on my shoulder but she wouldn't do anything and a few seconds later pull her hand away. It was so frustrating. Same with reaching over and squeezing her hand on her thigh...she'd rarely squeeze my hand back. Or I'd put my head in her lap and she'd never run her fingers through my hair. And if I did to her she'd say something totally unexpected like 'stop! you're messing up my hair'. I'd sometimes come and hold her from behind while she was in the kitchen doing something and she couldn't wait to free herself. Sometimes I'd pick her up off the ground and she'd complain that I was squeezing too tight. I guess I'm playful and enjoy the physical touch and she didn't.