I have thought about that - what I will say when (if) he tries to bail. Basically, it goes something like this. (From what we worked on previously.)
"So, you're not willing to go even after you said you would. What you are saying then is you are unwilling to work on your marriage. You are unwilling to complete your 50% of the work necessary to repair any harm or damage and hope for the future. By not going you are and will be allowing this marriage to end by your neglect. If that is your stance, then perhaps it is time for you to pack your things."
Then, if he says he's willing to do other things (like that stupid cruise suggestion) I will say, "And how has it worked so far trying your methods to reconnect? Let's see: talking to other women/friends about our issues but not a professional; escaping into XBox every free moment at home; trolling Facebook for old friends and girlfriends and having sex chats. Yeah, your ideas have worked really well so far. No, I think this is best left to professionals."
And I will stick by my guns. If he refuses to go, I will tell him there's the door.
