Heavy EA and Withdrawal

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OMG DMB!!!

This was almost my exact situation and it ended in her divorcing me.

Reading your thread has brought back some of those ugly memories.

It was her HS sweetheart from 36 years ago. He ditched her after gruaduation and she never got over it apparently. Found him via either facebook or classmates.com. Started marathon texting, hours of phone calls from her bunker bedroom.

He is also three states over and is married and has 5 kids. I actually did email him once and asked him how long this was going on and he played "dumb" with me and said they were just friends. Well she was sending him love poems so what kind of friend is that?

I did not know about any of this until two months after the divorce. She has alwas been a marathon phone person and I thought she was talking to girlfriends etc. I was naive.

I can guarantee that my XW is still talking to him and keeping her romance affair alive. And as long as he does not get bored with her she will stay in her little fantasy world indefinetely.
Not sure if there was a PA either pre or post divorce but the possiblity was and still is always there. Makes me sick to think about it. They both come off as being these two loving christian types.

And sadly, even if she (and your wife) were to realize this destructive "romantic" EA for what it is, they will most likely be to proud and stubborn to admit it after the damage is done. In my XW's case she has pretty much burned so many bridges that she may not be able to come back even if she wanted to.

This is why I also regret burning some bridges after I found out. But in the end I guess it does not matter. Hope for reconciliation is all but gone now and I am taking her advice to me to heart. "You need to move on" she said. And Im doing just that. Sometimes you have to admit to yourself that YOU deserve better than this.