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[awest1217]

H finally contacted me...after I text him the same message yesterday afternoon, last night, this morning and tonight. I know a little much, but it is important! He said he was sorry, but he was trying to find out the answers to some of my questions and didn't know when he would know about them. He also said yesterday he was at his grandma's doing work and he kept his phone in his bag in the car...great place if there is another emergency. Also if it was there why not call back or text to see if I needed something. I have to explain here. He hates when people call and don't leave a message and many times unless it is OW (or someone he likes) won't answer the phone and just let it go to voicemail to see what they want, and if they don't leave a good enough message he won't call them back (a good message is one where it explains in detail what you want). I know all of this, but when a 2 yr old is calling...he doesn't know how to leave a message and I don't care I am the mother of his kid. You call back no matter what. What if I was on the floor unconscience again and S dialed the number (he knows how to do that). Or what if something else happened and I couldn't talk a lot like I was being robbed. Who knows? He needs to answer.

Sorry about the rant. He said we would talk later this week...we will see. Then I should get some answers.

Lucky - As to what to do. I think my sitch although similar is very different. H doesn't have any depression or ADHD or anything. Although I think he has some serious psychological issues coming from his childhood, he doesn't have the other issues. OW has convinced him that he is autistic...whatever...only since he has moved out. Oh and now he is on even more meds for his skin issues (went to a dermatologist) so that means he is on I believe 7 meds 4 are vitamins, and was on 1 when he left. Anyway I don't have any advice because your H has some serious issues to work through and is still making progress. Although the OW is a setback, he is still trying to pursue you or was for a while. When it comes to OW, unless the WAS is even a little remorseful I would say file right away and leave him/her. My H has not once admitted to anything or said he was sorry for OW. He says he is sorry, but is always generic and never takes responsibility for his actions. So my advice is just file when you are ready, but in the mean time do all you can to detach and GAL because that will help you decide what to do and help you if he never comes around (which once meds and sleep start helping he may).