poet,
How awful. I can't believe the judge wouldn't grant the order. The stuff from two years ago, maybe, but barging into your house unannounced, taking stuff, muttering veiled threats - no that's harrassment, terrorizing, period.
You've GOT to have some options here.
If your L can't come up with anything, consult another one.
Change the locks. Add a slide chain on the inside. Something!

Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac