My teenage son cut his arm with knife

[MrBond]

If he uses the computer in a constructive way and maybe to express himself, then it is healthy. Did he actually say that it was his way of escaping from what his father is doing? I don't recall if you mentioned that he said that. The thing is that you want to find out (from his mouth) what is bothering him and not what might be bothering him.

Having him play tennis maybe isn't something he wants to do but is only doing it to make you happy. If he likes it, then great. But if its something he's forcing himself to do, then it's not healthy because he'll be under pressure to make YOU happy. Got it?

The only reason I bring this up is because you posted that he cut himself giving the implication that they were serious physically. Then in your post today it almost seemed like you made them seem like no big deal and that it was only because you took away his computer. Did the C tell you to take it away?

Then in another post you rant about how your H is horrible, you're going to see a L, etc. But then in another you say that you're going to fight for the marriage. I'm just concerned is all.