Seeing as this is the military I would suggest you leave QS to answer that one.. he did a military exposure a month or so back so he knows the ropes...
I know he's calling, but he's the one who threatened divorce...
And I know this is scary, but affairs don't end on their own.. I don't know a single addiction that dies of its own choice...
Has he given you ANY indication that he's gonig to do anyting OTHER than divorce?
I posted on another thread a list of things a cheating spouse will say that you MUST disregard and ignore...