Switched to my thread because I didn't want to 'hijack' the other. From the best I can tell, OW has broken up two marriages, and has two children with a third name. She is the polar opposite of my husband other than their common job with the Army. As most all MLC'rs he is doing things he would never consider doing before. His money situation, I can't be sure because I detached myself from his in record time. He is on the hook to pay for the house and utilities for up to 18 months while we try to sell.
I'm often confused if I'm holding out for love or spite. I'll always love him, but life is so much more peaceful with him gone. At the present time, I can't imagine any situation in which I would take him back, but tomorrow may feel entirely differently.
I do expect OW to decide H is entirely too much trouble and hit the road. She's 34 with prospects. He's 48, body worn out by deployments, and facing forced retirement, not to mention the alcoholism and PTSD.
