Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ImprovedRomeo]

if affection was last on her list, then I wonder about her ability to establish and maintain emotional intimacy.

You bring up a good point NM...the two are related but I think men and women are wired exactly opposite here. For me (and probably most men) we gain the emotional intimacy AFTER the physical bond. I expressed and grew my emotional closeness through the physical touch. For her (and probably most women) they gain the physical bond after the emotional intimacy- nature's funny isn't it?

It's like the chicken or the egg deal.