Using the LRT. Separated 4 months, D filed 2 months. FINALLY able to calm down and put some real effort into this. Two X's spouse has been here to remove belongings, last time was power display with 12 people, cops called.
Question: Should I pack remaining items STBX wanted to take and let them know to pick up, or wait for another attorney call? This would be a sign of "I don't need you in my life", but may make wrong impression.
FYI - M 10 years, depressed spouse but won't admit it.
Well, letter came from the attorney, now the question is do I pack more than the five items that were asked for. I'll be moving soon as well, letting our home we've lived in for 7 years go . I need to down size and take only necesities.
Wondering about packing other stuff, the stuff asked for I'll put out.
Power display, 12 people, 7 cars, video camera (which I gave to her when she asked for it a few weeks prior) rummaging through the house. 2 guys were off duty cops, along with 6 park rangers in their work clothes (not uniforms but advertising their agency) Attorneys agreed any "community property" stay behind to be settled later. That was dismissed by the group and things were just going.
A friend of mine called the police when her Dad got in my face about wanting to take back his couch he "loaned us" back in 2002 that we have refinished back in 2004.
We've never been physical. I can recall twice in 13 years raising my voice or vice versa.
Friend called becuase of escalation with her Dad getting in my face. The five items were requested today, 3 weeks after the incident mentioned prior.
12 people for dishes, linens, etc. Exactly, she only needed one helper, rather showed up with 12. Power play, intimidation move? She's surely being influenced by Mom who intruded on our marriage many times in the past. She lives with her Mom/Dad now.
Friend called becuase of escalation with her Dad getting in my face. The five items were requested today, 3 weeks after the incident mentioned prior.
12 people for dishes, linens, etc. Exactly, she only needed one helper, rather showed up with 12. Power play, intimidation move? She's surely being influenced by Mom who intruded on our marriage many times in the past. She lives with her Mom/Dad now.
why did she leave? is there another man involved? what's the situation with the kids? do you have joint custody? what's your goal? do you want her back? if so, why? (I'm not looking for the "I love her" answer)
why did she leave? I don't make her a priority, I'm controlling, I play poker too much. (I stopped playing and joined a 12 step 4 months ago).
is there another man involved? Not that I am aware of.
what's the situation with the kids? We started 50/50, 7 weeks into separation she decided every other weekend was best so I could focus on my 12 step recovery. I got her to counseling session after this announcement, she had no basis. Filed Legal Separation to get my 50/50 back which I did.
do you have joint custody? Yes, 50/50 joint/joint. Judge also agreed son to not change schools (she wanted him closer to her, she moved with Mom/Dad 24 miles away)
what's your goal? To put my family back together.
do you want her back? if so, why? (I'm not looking for the "I love her" answer) Yes, prior to our sons birth which started or escalated depression in her, we had a lot of fun together for 8 years. My best friend and vice versa. If you ask her today, there was never a good time, but of course there were. On a side note, I've analyzed, for sure the last five years I've gotten next to nothing from our relationship and I know I will survive and thrive regardless of the outcome. My kids want Mom and Dad together of course, we don't fight, etc. We surely lost the fun in the last few years. This is truly the largest of our issues besides her Mom.
If this is her game, then pack the five items, have them on the doorstep, ready to go. No one needs step foot into the house. She can have her 5 items, nothing more.
. I need to down size and take only necesities.