Are you and I leading parallel lives or what! I was just about to post a really pissy long rant about what an a$$hole my H is and how I'm not sure if I can carry on with this R anymore, then I catch up with your thread and think - hey LL is living my life what's with this?
Soooo... I am so grateful to you for finally hauling out that 2X4 cause you managed to clunk me on the head on the backswing!
I really am starting to realise that we have to live our OWN lives as happy as we can, not buy in to the fairytale romance crap that once you have the white dress and the ring you will be happy ever after etc etc blah blah. These men of ours are bill-paying roommates at the moment and who hasn't fallen out with a roommate at some time or other, who didn't have huge rows with parents/siblings etc. Living under the same roof with someone and sharing life is going to be tough it is not going to be all fun and sunshine NO MATTER WHAT. That's just life, and life is what WE make it not what some other bugger is up to.
This is MY life, I am going to be the one to make it fun, I am not going to rely on anyone else to do that, I am not going to piss and moan about anyone else's behaviour or try to point out to anyone else how they should be leading their life. My only promise to myself is not to be sexually unfaithful to my lawfully wedded H (but that is a private promise just for me).
Take care LL and thanks again for that 2X4
cheers
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
