Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[ClingingToHope]

My STBXW got exasperated last year and asked why I loved her -- before I moved out -- she said she was mean, fat, cold.

I told her I thought it was just stress and when I looked at her I still saw the 16-year-old I was hot for when I was 18.

Apparently, that was the wrong thing to say. She said she wanted someone who loved her for how she looks now.

This is where someday I still think she'll wake up and realize that I was THE one for her. I wanted her no matter what she weighed -- she always remembered a careless remark I made in our first year of our marriage and held it against me forever.