He's confused; I'm confused

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Depression exists through out the MLC. MLCers use OW and other running behaviors to 'band-aid' it and to avoid facing it. The depression stage is where he actually faces what he has been running from in replay. RCR explains it best at midlife crisis marriage advocate .com :

Depression in midlife is not an external problem. It is about issues within one’s Self. Replay is Covert Depression, a running away from the self manifested through anger and external blame, as well as a variety of self-medications; affair, drugs, alcohol, risky behaviour, spending, new friends and activities, often an interest in exercise and an obsession with youth and aging. It is a monster that feeds itself. I don’t want to feel despair and hopeless or face my demons (Overt Depression) so I’m going to drink, party and have an affair. I’m bad, I have tremendous guilt. I’ve cheated on my wife...this just can’t be fixed. He adds another demon to the Overt Depression he’s avoiding and run further away at an even faster pace. Covert Depression is a self-medication taken in an attempt to avoid Overt Depression.

It does seem he is reconnecting. It is my understanding they do this backwards from when then disconnected. You are last.
Be careful about having expectations! Hate to be a debbiedowner but this could just be cycling. My H went from a 3 month cycler to a 1 monther to a 2 week cycler now...he connects for a week then disappears for a week. 8)