OK, if you think there's just going to be a lot of TENSION and verbal argument, maybe some yelling and you can deal with that then my advice is to expose his behaviour and remain in the home. Invite a friend to stay with you as well if you can.
Prepare a letter to send to him as well while he's away that you will send after the exposure.
It won't be an apology, but you will tell him you want to save your marriage and he's got a chance to do that if he's willing to take it...
How do you think he would react if you exposed him to the military and then invited him to work on the marriage?
