Hey Sol, thanks...glad someone laughs at my corny jokes!
NM, you're right. She's younger and needy and I don't mean it in a bad way. It's understandable because she just got divorced (actually the paperwork just started) and most people are not fortunate enough to find a site like this to heal, learn about themselves first and then get out (holy crap, I sound like a wise old fart now! ).
She's not aggressive in person, very sweet and soft spoken so I don't fear any slashed tires or flying saucers. However, because she's a neighbor that could be a problem you know. So I'll have to drop a hint or two next time I see her like you suggested 'I need more time before I start dating' and 'hey what about that xyz guy, you two will probably make a good couple?' I don't know.
Yes on the occasional hello text (has to be unexpected to kinda make him smile). sex and sandwich, I kinda agree with that. But for me I want someone that cares, who seems concerned when something happens to me, who offers to help by calling and making a doc appointment for me even when I claim I'm OK after losing a quart of blood by slicing my finger open with a powertool.
Have you guys read '5 love languages'? take the quiz even if you don't read the book. My love languages are:
Physical Touch Quality Time Acts of Service Words of Affirmation Receiving Gifts
STBXW was the EXACT opposite (read bottom up for her).
By sandwich I think he just meant 'nothing grand' as in "I can survive on a sandwich alone if I have to but sex is most important".
All those things you listed about attention, protector, pampering- I did all those. In the begining we appreciated eachother a lot but slowly things changed and even when I tried to be nice she kinda gave me the cold shoulder. I complimented her a lot to the point she used to roll her eyes and said 'even if I wore a burlap sack you'd say I look hot' - the truth was I did think she was hot- to me and the older she got the hotter she looked.
But life happens...
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
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